Friday, October 28, 2005

Love to LIVE IN?!!

I was trying to get some control systems into my head when out of the blue my mom popped the question "What do the younger genera (i.e. me) think of the concept of live-in-relationships." A little skeptic as to why I was asked the question so suddenly I feared where this was headed but then mom clarified. Her group of social butterflies were discussing the topic, the origin of the debate: Salaam Namaste. As is obvious they did not infer that it was 'right' or 'wrong' but instead thought that it is the lofty ideas and unnecessary importance given to such relationships that triggers people into getting into them... I disagree!

I havent seen Salaam Namaste so I have no idea how they have portrayed the Live In relationship but I do know that people who get into them dont do so for the fascination or the hoopla about them... In actuality our society silently condemns such 'impure' relations...
Maybe if such a decision was left to me I wouldnt get into one but thats an individual choice. Each one of us is entitled to his own opinions and decisions and I feel that no one would get into such a relationship with so much social stigma attached to it without thinking...
It maybe casual for those brought up abroad or for those settling there but even they do attach importance to the fact that moving in together takes a relationship one step further... It is considered important. Those who dont think their relationship is that strong Dont move in together... its as simple!
It is a new concept, i agree it will take time to settle in but all i want to stress is that our generation does think... the impulsiveness is always there and sometimes it does lead the wrong way but in the end for most of us the decisions we make are thought over... they are not based on lofty ideas or fads or fascinations... they are made considering the consequences...

We do take steps put together by the heart AND mind.

4 comments:

Tejas said...

Point well made...
If only ALL people realised the "AND mind" part!

deXtEr said...

well.. it is a new concept
considering the typical orthodox Indian mentality and the hype and hoopla they attach to everythin that is borrowed from the west especially if it is culturally different from what has been comin down from generations it will be initially revolted against..
but then again we do have some sensible n liberal people and parents who may give the young ones that freedom..
my view - live-in relationships are a great way to know in advance how it would be to live with person u love.. instead of gettin married and then realisin it is the biggest mistake ever.. wat say?

Anonymous said...

"Each one of us is entitled to his own opinions and decisions"

Same applies to your other blog...where each one is entitled to express whatever he wants on his/her blog...u take it ..or leave it....!!!...:)

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